Having a neutral professional educated in family systems and dynamics can make certain that both the parent and teen will feel heard in a mediation session. The goal is to help the parties come to a fair agreement – this could be on living arrangements, household rules or responsibilities, behavior in the home or school, or anything else the family is at odds with. Teens feel that they are truly a part of the process of coming to an agreement rather than being told what to do, and they feel that their opinion is respected, so they are more likely to keep the agreement because the trained family mediator is conducting the conversation.
There are patterns in each family’s dynamics, and often a family mediator can be a catalyst in changing some destructive patterns by getting the parties to come to an agreement that is mutually satisfactory. Mediators are trained in detecting the underlying reasons for tension, stonewalling, bad attitudes, etc., and will be able to peel away the layers to get to the real issue. Remember, this is not counseling – this is about coming to an agreement you can both live with.
Family mediators and family counselors often work together. Family counselors get to the root of emotional pain and help heal individuals and families over time. Family mediators will detect the underlying reasons for behavior and help families put together an agreement for living day to day starting the day of the mediation session, while they continue to work with their counselor to understand behavior and heal.
How To Proceed
- Call Kris at 801-624-9555 or email her to find out more about the process of parent/teen mediation. Mediation is voluntary, and the teen needs to be on board, so he/she will likely need to be educated about mediation and what exactly mediators do. Depending on your child, this could mean a conversation with you, or with Kris, or simply some written information about mediation and its process.
- To arrange for a mutually convenient appointment for a free 30 minute consultation to see if mediation is appropriate for your issue, call 801-624-9555 or contact Kris via our website. At that time, a detailed explanation of the process is described, and a written outline provided.
- For WORKSHOPS in your area call Kris at 801-624-9555 or email Kris to find out when the subject you are interested in will be presented next, or to arrange one in your home or community.